Family

Family
March 24, 2017 Gary Shotton

Never let your business replace your family! #000006

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Family

By Gary Shotton

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Hello, I’m Gary Shotton and I’m glad to be with you again today. And I’m here with my family and today’s topic is family. And I’m just going to speak to you from the heart and I’m going to ask my family some of them to speak out as they choose. And what I’ve observed in life is that certain occupations, certain career paths, certain jobs, are more stressful on the family than other jobs. I mean there’s just the reality to that. I will mention up front as you’re entering into the concept of owning a business and running your business, that owning a business is probably one of those occupations that is potentially more stressful on the family. It pulls on the family in different ways. And so I’m here with part of my family, my daughter to the far right, her husband and their three children. And of course my wife here to the right, of 43 years we’ve been married. And so I will not give any kind of impression that life has been perfect working and living with Gary Shotton. I will tell you there’s bumps in the road, there’s been bumps in the road. But we made conscious efforts to make sure that our business did not consistently rise to a higher priority than our family. There’s certain times that I had to go do things just out of necessity, but we tried to limit those, or choose those, and again we’re here sitting as part of my family. I have two grown boys. They are married and they each have two children. And that makes up my combined family. I will mention that in my reading in books and information, that I did read a book way back, 20 years ago, that was very inspiring to me. So the second version of that book came out, an additional concept and I was in about the third chapter. And this writer made a statement that I do not agree with. They were talking to young career people, and this writer wrote that at some point in your career path, you may have to choose. Choose between following your career or honoring your family. And this author actually put in writing that his suggestion was to forget your family, follow your career path. Because you can always get another spouse and family. I totally disagree. I put the book down and did not finish the rest of the book based on that comment. Well there’s things that my wife and I have had challenges over, we won’t go into depth. Things like hey, we work side by side. Haven’t we? We worked side by side for 40-some years. Most of those 40-some years working in a business. We had to stop or try to stop our home life and make sure it ended because when we’re home, we’re home; and when we’re at work, we’re at work. Cindy, would you like to just share a few, at least one nugget of truth? Most people say, “I don’t want to be a boss or own my business because I don’t want to solve all the problems that comes with that”. But I have to say, you have to keep your priorities, and have to keep those in order. Put God, which we have honored God, and our family comes second; not church and others and your work. That has to come third, fourth, and fifth. So you have to keep those priorities in order for your family to be in total agreement and work with you. Some children do not want to follow your business. And a lot of parents have that expectation that their children will inherit their business, but that’s not always true and that does not always happen. Thank you Cindy and I sure do appreciate 43 years of marriage with you. Most of them happy, when it wasn’t happy it was usually my fault. Shauna, do you have any comments to make? Yeah, I mean I own my own business, it’s not my parent’s business or anything. I started a consulting business in my late-20s, I was 27, single. And so I think it’s important to know there are seasons of business. So I’m at the beginning, they’re 40 years into business. For me when I was single, I worked a lot, and it was okay to do that. I had nobody to report to. I worked late nights, early mornings, traveled a lot. Now I’m in my late, almost 40, early 40s, late 30s now; with a family and I am still working right now, at the moment more than I want to. And I’ve had to deal with seasons of my business. And I’m at the point actually where I’ve grown my business, 12 years into it, and I’m having to say no. Actually declining business, declining work solely because my family is more important than working non-stop. And I think with any business, you have to go through some seasons. And understand as a husband and wife, there are times you’re going to work a lot, but that it’s not forever. That there isn’t that grind that’s never ending. So we’re at the point, me and my husband, we’ve made some decisions to slim down my work to where I’m now able to be with my family more and more as they’re growing because they won’t be in my house forever. And so the season that I’m in is little kids, little family and I’ve got to make those decisions to say no. No to business, meaning no to my growing company, or no to future projects that might be on the line solely because it’s my decision to be with my family while they’re young. I may choose 20 years from now that to be different because they’re seasons. I think all of our families in our life go, and business goes through seasons also. So that’s what I want to share. Thank you very much. My family is very important to me. Once again, I’ll say it again I am in no way a perfect father, a perfect boss. But these videos are intended to just remind you of a key point and this key point is do not let your family become secondary. Well we wrap it up with that, thank you. Up next AUTOPLAY
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Gary Shotton
Founder | IBBTalks.com
The founder of IBBTalks.com which was formed to "Inspire Better Business."
As an astute businessman, he is passionate about helping others in the business world achieve maximum profits. He has a keen interest in international business. www.InspiringBetterBusiness.com

5 Comments

  1. Adam 5 years ago

    Your wife, CIndy, makes a great point. You have to have your priorities in order of God, then family and then everything else. If you get those priorities out of order, everything starts to come apart.

  2. Tim Rovenstine 5 years ago

    nice looking family. Your wife makes good points. That cell phone call wrapped it all up, made it look real. Nice goals for 2017. Happy New Year

  3. Ben Rutlidge 5 years ago

    Hi Gary, I wanted to message but your business card did not have an email. If this is the wrong place to contact you please get the admin to take it down. I expect you spoke to a hundred people on your Africa trip but we met briefly on a flight to Addis Ababa in the summer 2016 both of us standing to stretch legs. I guess the airline have a system to maximise profitability squeezing in as many seats as they can! We talked politics, UK and US with both country’s now going through major change. I said to you I thought we were lucky to live in democracy where the people get a vote and the people will speak and the politicians better listen. The politicians might have the sound bites on TV but I have great faith that the civil servants working behind the scenes have systems of checks and balance to support their new leaders for the good of everyone. I have not looked at all your videos but I loved your idea of only having to offer a few hundred £ to support a business startup in Africa this potnetionally having an exponential impact on the community with jobs etc. I love photography and have been able to capture some fantastic experiences. Recently I have been asked for my thoughts on cameras and ‘how to’ type questions by friends who see me as an expert. I have been surprised at how much I have enjoyed sharing my knowledge and experiences. Enthusiasm is infectious and leaves people with lasting impressions of the encounters. It has made me think about how I might expand that sharing. So while I think about how best to share my continued photography learning experiences I want to wish you and your family well, it was good to meet you and learn about your projects. If you have a quiet 5 minutes one day, I post my photographs on a Facebook page to share. I try and put a few words with each post about how I felt or the situation I found myself in. I guess it’s my way of expressing myself some will like it, some won’t. Good luck for the future. Cheers Ben
    Ben Rutlidge Photographer on FaceBook

  4. Ben Rutlidge 5 years ago

    Hi Gary, I wanted to message but your business card did not have an email. If this is the wrong place to contact you please get the admin to take it down. I expect you spoke to a hundred people on your Africa trip but we met briefly on a flight to Addis Ababa in the summer 2016 both of us standing to stretch legs. I guess the airline have a system to maximise profitability squeezing in as many seats as they can! We talked politics, UK and US with both country’s now going through major change. I said to you I thought we were lucky to live in democracy where the people get a vote and the people will speak and the politicians better listen. The politicians might have the sound bites on TV but I have great faith that the civil servants working behind the scenes have systems of checks and balance to support their new leaders for the good of everyone. I have not looked at all your videos but I loved your idea of only having to offer a few hundred £ to support a business startup in Africa this potnetionally having an exponential impact on the community with jobs etc. I love photography and have been able to capture some fantastic experiences. Recently I have been asked for my thoughts on cameras and ‘how to’ type questions by friends who see me as an expert. I have been surprised at how much I have enjoyed sharing my knowledge and experiences. Enthusiasm is infectious and leaves people with lasting impressions of the encounters. It has made me think about how I might expand that sharing. So while I think about how best to share my continued photography learning experiences I want to wish you and your family well, it was good to meet you and learn about your projects. If you have a quiet 5 minutes one day, I post my photographs on a Facebook page to share. I try and put a few words with each post about how I felt or the situation I found myself in. I guess it’s my way of expressing myself some will like it, some won’t. Good luck for the future. Cheers Ben
    Ben Rutlidge Photographer on FaceBook

  5. Author
    Gary Shotton 5 years ago

    Great to hear from you and would like to create a friendship going forward. I do remember you on this trip you mentioned.
    Blessings,
    Gary

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